Allen’s Tips: Infidelity and Forgiveness November 1, 2012 Last month, Argie Allen, PhD, was featured in a FOX-29 segment about infidelity. Here, she shares some of her expertise and explains who forgives whom more willingly, frequently, and why: Women are more emotional but also more able to see shades of gray, not just black vs. white. Men tend to be more territorial and have difficulty viewing infidelity from a shades of gray perspective. Women may be more fearful of starting over so they may compromise with regard to infidelity more so than a male would. Men often feel that they have more options so they are willing to try out another relationship instead of staying with their unfaithful partner or spouse. Recovering from infidelity is hard but not impossible whether you stick it out or leave. Argie’s tips for staying in a relationship after infidelity occurs: Seek support through therapy. Be patient yet hopeful with the process. Be open to the process of forgiveness. Commit to not breaking trust going forward. Keep talking. Don’t shut down or shut your partner out.